We learn from movies and the media that women want to be hit on in cool and unusual places in a romantic and unique way. A lot the time when women do get approached in these places, they are easily creeped out. If you want to meet someone in a unique and fun way, then you have to be suave. You have to be confident, but not cocky. You have to be funny, but not over the top. Most importantly, you have to learn how to read her signals, and then go for it: ask for her digits and ask her out on a date.
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Granted, this one's going to take you out of your comfort zone, but how else do you expect to meet new people? At least at a dance class, as matchmaker Susan Trombetti points out, the odds would be in your favor. "Yoga, dance class, or a spinning class is a great place to meet women if you can get into it," she says. "I know lots of men who try this with much success. You will definitely be in the minority." Even if you don't meet a girl, you'll be improving your personality, which is a big help for single men everywhere when it comes to attracting beautiful women. And even if you don't happen to meet your special someone at dance class itself, acquiring the skill will be guaranteed to help you in the future..
Exit the conversation early. This one might surprise you, but assuming you're having a first conversation with a woman you don't know (whether a stranger or a friend of a friend), cut it short. By doing this, you're ensuring you're not misreading the situation and wasting her time, in the event that she isn't interested, but you're also demonstrating that you respect boundaries and aren't a threat to her. And if she was enjoying the conversation, you'll leave her wanting more.
So why does the alcohol-soaked pick-up scene still exist? Aside from the obvious reasons (tequila, vodka, rum), there's a surprising one as well: inexperience. Men are new to this 21st-century version of the boy-meets-girl game. In 1970, the median age for marriage was 23 for men and 21 for women. Today it's 28 and 26. "It used to be that people felt they'd somehow missed out if they didn't have a spouse by the time they graduated college," says David Popenoe, Ph.D., founder and codirector of the National Marriage Project and a professor emeritus of sociology at Rutgers University. "Today, people feel they need to establish themselves economically first." The postponement of "I do" means most men will be single in their 20s, a trend that populates the bar scene and empties the church aisles.