As for what to put in your profile, be sure you describe the exact type of girl you’re looking for (none of this “any girl will do” nonsense). Is this going to filter women out? Yes. But that’s the point. By actively filtering women you show that you’re a high-value guy with standards. This is going to make you more desirable for any woman who reads your profile. It’s also going to prevent you from wasting time with the wrong girls.
Nobody will vouch for you more than a friend. And if that friend happens to be female, her word will carry more value. Why? Because women trust other women more than a man whose mission is likely transparent. Apart from meeting online, research has shown meeting through friends is the most popular method of connecting with a potential partner. Being “set up” should occur in naturally social environments, like a barbecue or dinner party. Or perhaps you settle on a double date, where you can sit back and play coy while your friend sings your praises. In these instances the matchmaker will probably facilitate conversation throughout, expressing mutual interests and similar sentiments to assist you two in hitting it off. Remember: she’s your biggest cheerleader!
If you check out this site you’ll likely find events (happy hours, game nights, etc.) just for singles in your age range. But if nothing like that is going on, don’t worry. There are plenty of activity groups (hiking, going to sporting events, book clubs…) that will prove great places to meet single women. What makes these activity groups are so fantastic is they give you a chance to meet girls who have similar interests as you.
For those truly passionate about a particular hobby (i.e. writing, archeology, model trains, or motorcycles), look for a community group that services other people with similar interests. Your geographic location will determine whether or not there are readily accessible groups already ready and waiting for your membership. For those in smaller communities where the resources may not be as comprehensive, try talking to the owners of local shops you frequent to buy hobby-related materials and ask if they know of others to speak with regarding starting a group, or if you can post notices looking for other interested participants. Another idea would be to contact national organizations overseeing smaller local chapters to see if they are planning any speaking engagements or are looking to start a chapter in your area. Other ideas along these lines include attending LGBT film festivals, single parent organizations or meetings, and health-related support groups.
We know that life is busy and want dating to fit easily into your free time. You can download the EliteSingles dating app to enjoy the flexibility and mobility of dating on your smartphone or if you prefer desktop dating sites, you can choose the options that work best for you. If you’re hoping to meet single women in your area, let us help you do it! And remember to give yourself the best chance by creating an engaging profile with interesting details about your life and a selection of photos.
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Now, while there’s success in numbers, don’t fool yourself. Women notice when a men gets rejected, even if he’s half away across the room. Most guys keep trying over and over, and by the end of the night their heads hung down low and they reek of desperation. Will they see success after the twentieth time? Sure, they might. However, most guys don’t have a large enough emotional bank account to handle that much rejection, especially in one single night.
Coffee shops are one of my personal favorites when it comes to places to meet singles. It may seem obvious to some or completely alien to others - yet it works. Find a busy coffee shop that you feel comfortable in, and take up a space near the main door. Avoid bringing anything to distract yourself with if you can manage it, although this may be more difficult for some than for others. The point is this: try not to involve yourself into something so completely that you send off 'I'm busy' vibes. You want to seem approachable, and hiding behind a laptop or book doesn't help!
For those who love exercising, make health a top priority, and are attracted to people who feel the same, intramural sports can kill two birds with one stone. You get to stay active, and you get to meet compatible women. Once someone catches your eye, you could even mention getting food or drinks after a game or two. If you’re nervous about being one on one with her, make it a group thing to remove some of the pressure.