Coffee shops are one of my personal favorites when it comes to places to meet singles. It may seem obvious to some or completely alien to others - yet it works. Find a busy coffee shop that you feel comfortable in, and take up a space near the main door. Avoid bringing anything to distract yourself with if you can manage it, although this may be more difficult for some than for others. The point is this: try not to involve yourself into something so completely that you send off 'I'm busy' vibes. You want to seem approachable, and hiding behind a laptop or book doesn't help!
Whether you are taking a couple of courses to upgrade, are a full-time university student or are passionate about tole painting, every community both large and small have courses you can take that will not only net you more knowledge but a whole new set of people to meet and interact with. If money is an issue, think about taking a class without getting credit or look into how old you have to be to receive free classes, since many universities now offer tuition-free options for seniors. And while you want to take classes that you have a personal or professional interest in, it never hurts to take something you normally wouldn't - if only because you have a hunch the type of person you are looking to meet would take that kind of class
Granted, this is not an option for everybody looking for places where to meet single women. But if art is your passion, then this one is the jackpot for you. Keep an eye out for new art gallery openings or showcases. As for museums, a little research is all you need to get an entry to a session kept aside for patrons where you are served free snacks and wine.
We're willing to bet your kitchen skills are lacking, or at the very least could benefit from some professional advice. Why not take a cooking class? Not only will you upgrade your culinary skills and maybe add a few new dishes to your repertoire, but you're likely to find yourself one of the few men in attendance. Even better, for those shy about approaching women: you'll often be asked to pair up to complete a dish, giving you an easy way to start up a conversation over an omelet flambé.

Nobody will vouch for you more than a friend. And if that friend happens to be female, her word will carry more value. Why? Because women trust other women more than a man whose mission is likely transparent. Apart from meeting online, research has shown meeting through friends is the most popular method of connecting with a potential partner. Being “set up” should occur in naturally social environments, like a barbecue or dinner party. Or perhaps you settle on a double date, where you can sit back and play coy while your friend sings your praises. In these instances the matchmaker will probably facilitate conversation throughout, expressing mutual interests and similar sentiments to assist you two in hitting it off. Remember: she’s your biggest cheerleader!

Similar to the hobbies and special interests we all have are our political, religious and/or spiritual affiliations. Many groups that fall into this category also have single sub-sections for their members looking for a mate, whose special events are excellent places to meet people. There are even specific volunteer organizations geared only towards singles that you can join, knowing that while you are donating your time to a worthy cause, you'll also be expanding your personal network to include other, like-minded singles also looking for a date
"I met my girlfriend Stephanie at a book signing for Karen Russell," he says. "The line was kind of disorderly, so I turned to the person behind me and said, 'I didn't cut you, did I?' and she said, 'No.' That was Stephanie. I said, 'So are you a big Karen Russell fan?' and she said, 'Yes.' I asked who some of her other favorite authors were, and we chatted briefly. She got her book signed, then I got mine signed. Afterward I turned around, and she was standing there waiting for me. It turned out we were both going to Grand Central, so we walked there together. We had very immediate, very obvious chemistry. We got to the corner where we needed to split up, and Stephanie said, 'I want to keep talking to you though.' Her train was leaving shortly before mine, so I went with her to her train, then jumped off just as the doors were closing and hurried to catch my train. I had given her my business card, and she emailed me the next day. We've been together for almost five years."

Separate from the obvious, there are several social events you can attend to increase your chances of meeting someone new. Try planning a weekly movie night through your friends and see who shows up every week, making it clear that new people are welcome to join at any time. Accept every party, wedding or social networking invitation you are given and attend. Another idea along this same vein would be to host your own party, where each invitee brings a potluck dish and a single friend (of the opposite sex for heterosexuals or same sex for gays and lesbians). This way there will be an evenly-matched number of singles, all interested and ready to meet someone new.


"I had two shift partners, one of whom ended up being my future wife. At the time, she had a boyfriend and I had a girlfriend, so while I thought she was cute, there was never any weird flirty tension. We shared one four-hour shift a week for about two years. Without really intending to, we became good friends because of the experiences we shared assisting clients and talking about our lives outside the hotline in between calls. Around the time she left the hotline, we both coincidentally went through breakups. We went from commiserating about our hotline work to commiserating about being single. Then one night she came over, we hooked up, and about a year and a half later we were married. I think what worked about meeting that way was that things developed really organically, because neither of us were there to meet people. We bonded over the work we were doing and the stuff we discovered we had in common over the years."

Sure thing, in the 21st century, online acquaintances are more common than birds in the sky. And while some people still consider online dating sites somewhat dangerous and unreliable, others use them to their advantage to find beautiful Ukrainian brides. Why not, anyway? Besides, you’re already on a dating website, so you’re only a few clicks away from a chance to find that special someone. Go ahead – sign in and meet women online.
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